Guidelines

By Terry Plotkin

I try to follow these precepts. I don’t always succeed, but I rely on them, at times, when situations arise. I invite you to offer your own in the comments section.

1.  When in doubt take the high ground.

2.  Start confrontations with a question. This gives the opportunity for the person to explain himself, retain his dignity, and may even help you keep your foot out of your mouth.

3.  Treat everyone well. The more intimate you are with them, the more this is true.

4.  Don’t act out when wronged. It weakens your position, and takes you off the high ground.

5.  Don’t hide from the dark side of life. That is where life’s lessons are taught.

6.  Rules matter, but know that some situations require exceptions. Therefore, one must always evaluate.

7.  Withhold judgment until all the facts are in, and everyone has been heard from.

8.  Guideline #7 is doubly true for anger. Anger is bad enough without going there on erroneous or partial information.

9.  If someone’s action doesn’t make sense on the surface, then there is a hidden agenda going on. Beware!

10. When in doubt whether you should swim or not, go ahead and jump. You never regret it.

One Response to “Guidelines”

  1. Terry, I can’t resist. Your points beg counterpoints:

    1. When in doubt take the high ground.

    “When certain, do the opposite.”

    2. Start confrontations with a question. This gives the opportunity for the person to explain himself, retain his dignity, and may even help you keep your foot out of your mouth.

    “End confrontations with an apology, then take your foot out of your mouth.”

    3. Treat everyone well. The more intimate you are with them, the more this is true.

    “Treat yourself well, unless you feel you have to take sh*t from someone else.”

    4. Don’t act out when wronged. It weakens your position, and takes you off the high ground.

    “If you find yourself in the gutter, drag yourself out before anyone notices.”

    5. Don’t hide from the dark side of life. That is where life’s lessons are taught.

    “Don’t hide from the light, that’s just stupid.”

    6. Rules matter, but know that some situations require exceptions. Therefore, one must always evaluate.

    “Break every rule you can, life is short, who gives a sh*t?”

    7. Withhold judgment until all the facts are in, and everyone has been heard from.

    “Make hasty decisions, no one will care.”

    8. Guideline #7 is doubly true for anger. Anger is bad enough without going there on erroneous or partial information.

    “Get mad and stay mad, nothing else makes sense.”

    9. If someone’s action doesn’t make sense on the surface, then there is a hidden agenda going on. Beware!

    “Actions never make sense, when have you seen an unhappy slug?”

    10. When in doubt whether you should swim or not, go ahead and jump. You never regret it.

    “If you can’t swim, don’t jump in the water, that’s good advice!”

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